It is important to show compassion and kindness to others but we also need to show this level of kindness to ourselves. Settling into a new life back in New Zealand, in a new job, it was important for me to get into a routine to help me find balance and flow in life. I found several ways that help me to take time out for myself, reset and incorporate into my every day.
Floating in an epsom salt pod allows me to disconnect for a full hour, lying in complete darkness, taking time out for myself. I enjoy the experience of weightlessness, allowing me to unwind and stop analysing my day/life, and each float is a completely different experience.
Reading allows me to learn and grow. I read a mixture of fiction, non-fiction and self-development books, some of my favourites from 2018 were:
– Becoming by Michelle Obama
– Cold Vein by Anne Tonner
– To Shake the Sleeping Self by Jedidiah Jenkins
I listen to podcasts while going for a walk and getting ready for work. I find podcasts a good way to catch up on world news but also for inspiration, I enjoy learning something new, some of my favourite podcasts are:
– From the Heart: Conversations with Yoga Girl
– Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations
– Girls on Top
Be kind to yourself
I have learnt to have more compassion for myself. I have discovered that I am my own biggest critic. It is important to be proud of yourself, know that no one is perfect. Focus on being the best version of yourself, don’t seek approval of anyone else.
Find movement you enjoy
Your body works for you every day, treat it with love. Daily movement helps me to switch off and feel good at the end of a day sitting at the office desk. I will never be an athlete, but I do enjoy practicing yoga, getting sweaty at the gym or heading outside for a walk.
There is no point in rushing from one thing to the next. Slow down, enjoy the moment, stop to smell the roses – literally! What’s the point in rushing around all day to go to bed and get up the next day to do it all over again?
Switch my phone off
Our phones have become an extension of our hands. Have a break from the constant notifications, they will still be there in an hour or two. Everyone needs a break from their pinging mobile device.
Invest in me
I think it is important to try new things and keep learning, whether that be insight through a workshop, conference or book. You might not absorb or adopt everything, take the wisdom you need in that moment.
It is so important to educate on how to save money and become financially independent. We are living at a time where buying a house seems only possible if we win the lottery.. Educate yourself and learn how much that credit card is costing you every month.
Consider the environment
Consider your impact on the world, reducing plastic use by bringing your own coffee cup, drink bottle and remembering your reusable bags when doing your grocery shop.
Create a morning and an evening routine
It is important to allow yourself to ease yourself into your day or wind down before bed. Some things you could incorporate into your morning or evening routine are: meditation, turning off your phone, tea or coffee, journalling, a walk or yoga. Don’t beat yourself if you miss a day, just plan to start again tomorrow.
Don’t always wait for a special occasion or feel like you need to put off booking that massage, new book, hair cut of maybe simply going on that walk along the beach. Make time, prioritise you.
Chocolate is ok sometimes
We all deserve that piece of chocolate, ok who am I kidding… that block of chocolate, every now and again!
Make it a habit to spend more time in nature. Get outside in the fresh air, the trees, the beach. Listen to the birds in the trees, notice the sun and clouds in the sky. Connecting with nature helps ground me.
It’s ok to stay home all day sometimes
We all need those days pottering around the house, sitting on the couch, catching up on Netflix. My Mum taught us the important of “blobbing” when we were young and I can feel when I haven’t done it in a while.
Travel helps reset me
There is something special about escaping your every day. Immersing yourself in a new culture, with new people and amazing sights.
Whether you’d prefer to simply sit on the beach and watch the waves or maybe you dive into the ocean. Go barefoot in the sand and enjoy the sea air. The beach clears our head.
Meditation is not easy
It can be hard to sit with yourself. I struggle with 5 minutes most of the time but thats ok. Its the intention that matters, sitting with you breath. Simply being with your body and breath gives you the power to understand yourself and the world around you.
Self compassion is ultimately about allowing yourself to grow, laugh and feel proud of yourself. Reflecting on what works for you is so important and this list is by no means exhaustive.
How do you take time out?